TRANSFORMATIONAL COACH & MENTOR
LIVE RELATIONSHIP AS A SPIRITUAL PATH TO YOUR DEEPEST HEALING
Sacred Union is our newest and most in-depth retreat, created specifically for committed couples ready to live their relationship as an authentic spiritual path. This is not just another relationship weekend, it is the ever-evolving answer to a deep prayer in the hearts of couples longing for true intimacy, true union, and a profound understanding of how their relationship can become a path to each other’s deepest healing and spiritual awakening.
Sacred Union was born from the same longing in our own hearts: to realize intimate relationship as a spiritual path that breaks cycles of generational trauma, wounding, and separation between the masculine and feminine, both within and without. Through years of our own deep work together and guiding countless couples, we noticed a calling for something deeper, a container for couples ready to fully commit to themselves, to each other, to love, and to the spiritual path. From this, Sacred Union emerged.
We couldn’t imagine a more fitting place to hold this one-of-a-kind initiatory retreat than within the loving embrace of the cathedrals of Sedona, Arizona.
We are accepting only six couples, so each pair can receive the deep intimacy, personalized guidance, and support needed to rise together in this prayer of Sacred Union.
THIS IS FOR COMMITTED COUPLES READY FOR TRUE DEPTH
This retreat is for couples who already know that relationship itself is a core aspect of their spiritual path and journey to deepest healing. You have committed to hold one another through thick and thin, have done some inner work, and are ready to explore what it truly means to awaken together.
You recognize that your togetherness is more than convenience or shared enjoyment, it is a prayer of two souls weaving together for the benefit of each other and all of humanity. You are ready to see each other even more deeply, to hold one another in pain with love and skill, and to flow in the sacred dance of the masculine and feminine, not only on earth but in the astral and beyond.
You long to become the ground upon which each of you can rise and embody your fullest potential. You are ready to realize that the true master you’ve always been seeking has been right in front of you all along, in the form of your Beloved, and that being together answers the prayer of both your hearts and the hearts of those who came before and will come after.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN AND EXPERIENCE
On this retreat, you will be guided to turn your relationship into a true spiritual path of healing and awakening. Through embodied practices, ceremony, Tantric rituals, and personalized guidance, you will experience:
Transformative Insights & Skills
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How to turn moments of difficulty, charge, or triggers into deeper intimacy, openness, and trust.
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How to embody your core masculine or feminine essence to express your most authentic self and create natural polarity in every moment.
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How to identify and heal core childhood wounds and unconscious relational patterns together.
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How to integrate ancient Tantric rituals that utilize your love as a pathway to spiritual union.
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How to understand and practice sex as a spiritual practice, healing your nervous systems and connecting to your true essence.
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How to align your mind, body, and heart with the prayer of love and healing that your relationship serves for yourselves and all humanity.
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You long to experience deep emotional and spiritual intimacy with your beloved.
Experiential Highlights
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Daily men’s, women’s, and couples’ embodied practice sessions.
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Theory, guided practice, and Q&A with Ian and Valentina.
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Initiations and ancient Tantric rituals performed together each night.
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Integration of psychological, somatic, and spiritual practices into a fully embodied understanding of intimate relationship.
THE WARM AND RADIANT YES OF THE HEART IS PERFECT, LIKE THE SUN, IN BRINGING ALL THINGS TO LIFE AND NOURISHING ALL THAT IS TRULY HUMAN.
-JOHN WELWOOD
FOR COUPLES WHO ...
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Feel that something deeper is calling, even if their relationship feels nourishing on the surface.
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Have done inner work but still find themselves caught in patterns of closure, habitual blame, or resentment.
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Long for more depth, intimacy, passion, ease, and joy in the relationship.
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Desire to explore polarity, sacred sexual connection, and authentic Tantra in a safe and sacred container.
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Are ready to make their union the core of mutual healing and spiritual awakening, and to serve the prayer of love that exists between you both.
WHAT COUPLES ARE SAYING
Wryn & Jack
"True Intimacy is without a doubt the most profound, healing and transformational workshop we have ever attended.We were taught tools for conflict resolution that go beyond the theoretical and burst our hearts so wide open that we can now hold ourselves and each other in an ocean of love and compassion. This ability to live from the heart has the power to dissolve conflict and return us both to the divinity of our love. All of a sudden, the need to be “right” or hold grudges dissolves. This quote comes to mind:
“Outside of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there”
The fusion of psychological theory, embodiment practices, tantra and spiritual philosophy makes for the most profound healing experience that fills in all of the gaps where other modalities are lacking. It is truly WHOLEistic: you come away with a sense of wholeness, union and deep inner knowing.
Thanks to the course we now know the most intimate parts of ourselves and each other and how our traumas show up in relationship. We were given a road map of such deep inner knowing that it went beyond any therapy either of us have received.
Ian and Vale are EXPERT space holders. They not only created a beautiful, sacred space but they also have an incredible capacity for holding and guiding people through raw, vulnerable moments as well as trauma in a way that looks effortless but is evidently the result of years of study and application.
Ian and Vale are the true embodiment of their teachings and their love is divine. They were such a source of inspiration to us that we are now continuing to work one-to-one with them so that we too can evolve into the embodiment of true intimacy."
GENERAL RETREAT INFORMATION
Villa
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An intimate group of only 6 couples, staying together in a private luxury villa, allowing Ian and Valentina to offer deep, personalized guidance and support to each couple.
Sessions
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4 nights and 4 days of embodied practice, ceremony, Tantric rituals, and personalized coaching on the spiritual path of relationship.
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Each day includes men’s, women’s, and couples’ sessions, along with theory, Q&A, and time for integration.
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Evening initiations and ancient Tantric rituals bring the day’s practices together in sacred ceremony.
Meals
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Included: A light breakfast of granola, yogurt, organic fruit, and nuts is provided each morning. Coffee, tea, and water are available throughout the retreat.
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Lunch & Dinner: Each day you may order from a curated selection of local restaurants. Our team will collect orders in advance and bring the meals directly to the villa. These meals are not included in the retreat price and must be paid separately (via Venmo, in advance, directly to our assistant).
RETREAT SCHEDULE
Friday, November 21 – Arrival & Orientation
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3:00 – 4:30 pm: Check-in
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5:00 – 7:00 pm: Orientation and welcoming ceremony
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7:00 – 8:00 pm: Dinner
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8:00 – 9:30 pm: Evening practice
Saturday, November 22 – Monday, November 24 – Full Retreat Days
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8:30 – 10:30 am: Morning Session #1
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10:30 – 11:15 am: Breakfast snack & break
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11:15 am – 1:00 pm: Morning Session #2
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1:00 – 4:00 pm: Lunch & afternoon break / personal integration time
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4:00 – 6:45 pm: Afternoon Session
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6:45 – 8:15 pm: Dinner
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8:15 – 10:00 pm: Evening Tantric ritual
Tuesday, November 25 – Departure Day
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8:00 – 10:00 am: Final sharing and integration
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10:00 am – 12:00 pm: Departure
LOVERS DON'T FINALLY MEET SOMEWHERE. THEY ARE IN EACH OTHER ALL ALONG.
- RUMI
RETREAT LOCATION
Our retreat will be held in a private villa nestled among the cathedrals of Sedona, Arizona. This sacred landscape, with its vast desert skies and red rock beauty, offers the perfect setting for deep inner work and renewal.
Five couples will each have their own room in the villa, sharing three full baths. The home includes a jacuzzi, a spacious patio overlooking the cathedrals, and generous indoor and outdoor spaces for both gathering and rest.
For those desiring more privacy, The Eagle’s Nest, a small one-bedroom house on the same land, is available for an additional $400.
All sessions, rituals and practices will happen in the common room of the main house, or out on the beautiful patio if the weather permits. Trails, nature and swimming holes are all within walking distance of the house that can be explored during the breaks.
WHAT COUPLES ARE SAYING
Jon & Amanda
"For years, we've been searching for teachings that would lead us to feel the capacity and safety to hold one another in our wounding and emotions, while also guiding us to always see the divine in each other — creating deeper and more sustainable intimacy. Having attended the True Intimacy Retreat, we're astonished to discover that we've found exactly what we were seeking… and much more. We could have never anticipated such a beautifully curated and profound offering. It was truly transformational and evolutionary for us as individuals and as life partners.
Ian and Valentina create a very safe and loving container into which we were able to fully surrender and reignite the bright light within our union. In the practices, we were guided to share our shadows, wildness, and devotion in a way that completely shifted how we relate to ourselves and to each other.
After moving through True Intimacy, experiencing conflict together now feels like an opportunity to meet unmet parts of ourselves and our partner. We sense an immense deepening of compassion as we move through challenges in a more supportive way.
Practices that allowed us to see each other more completely helped us embrace and hold all parts of each other without feeling triggered, resistant, or anxious. The course reconfirmed the importance of devotion to our union through practice and ritual as a pathway to deep reverence and honoring one another. Learning to implement these rituals ignites a desire to hold space and support each other on a more profound level.
We are committed to Ian and Valentina as our teachers, and our intention is to continue to work with them continually."
THE CONSCIOUSNESS IN YOU AND THE CONSCIOUSNESS IN ME, APPARENTLY TWO, REALLY ONE, SEEKS UNITY, AND THAT IS LOVE.
- NISARGARDATTA MAHARAJ
MEET YOUR GUIDES
Ian and Valentina have each been fully dedicated to the spiritual path for over 12 years. They are devoted to one another, and above all, to the essence of love-consciousness that lives within each of them. Through this total dedication—to awakening, to each other, and to the path of intimate relationship—they are in full service to support others on the same journey: relearning how to heal, awaken, and grow through the sacred path of relationship.
"LOVE IS NOT JUST A FEELING, BUT A STATE OF TOTAL SURRENDER TO GOD."
-A. HELWA
HOW TO APPLY & NEXT STEPS
To apply for Sacred Union, book a 30-minute private call with Ian and Valentina via the link below.
During this call, we’ll explore whether this retreat is the right fit for you and your partner.
If accepted, you’ll have 48 hours to submit payment of $3,600 via bank transfer. Payment plans are also available and can be discussed on your call.
Please note: Only 6 couples will be admitted, so early application is highly recommended.
With Love and Presence,
Ian and Valentina
