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Dearest Family

True Intimacy is a 4 day initiatory experience and workshop for couples and singles on how to both heal and awaken through the art and beauty of relationship.

This workshop was born out of deeply felt need to bring the worlds of shadow work, inner child work, embodied polarity practice, trauma release, relationship therapy, spiritual practice and Tantra together into one coherent and clear path to experience true harmony, true healing and authentic awakening in relationship.

We will share with you proven methods and practices to truly work with and take care of each others nervous systems, integrate your psychological shadows, heal emotional wounds and open to spirit in a practical and safe way together. No previous experience in this work is needed.

In our experience both dimensions of the personal and spiritual must be practiced and understood simultaneously in order for an authentic and lasting unfolding of compassion, love and true spiritual intimacy to manifest.

In this workshop we will bring light and clarity to the questions:

Why do these triggers and patterns of intense conflict or sexual stagnancy or wanting to run away from intimacy keep happening?

Where do they come from?

How can I heal them in relationship so I can experience the kind of love I've always wanted?

How can it be possible to create spirals of healing and deepening in love in relationship as apposed to cycles of conflict, further wounding and re traumatization?

How can we authentically walk the spiritual path together without bypassing emotional wounding and trauma?

And much more .. 

We hope to have you with us on this journey to re writing the story of what true beauty and lasting love can look like in intimate relationships. By healing the relationship to ourselves, we heal each other, our past, our future and this Earth. 

Pillars of Our Work


Embodied Practice


Relationship Therapy

Shadow Work

We will explore and experience what it means to truly embody our most powerful masc/fem qualities, our most vulnerable emotions and psychological shadows to create depth, transparency, openness and evoke love in ourselves and our partners through embodied practice.

We will use traditional Tantric rituals, meditations, theory and practices as a way to awaken to the essence of who we are, control the sexual energy for the purpose of amplifying love and worship each other as expressions of the sacred.

We use various relationship therapy modalities combined with embodied intimacy practice to bring light to how childhood wounding and trauma can become a source of healing in relationship as opposed to re-traumatizing.

We explore the hidden, disconnected and undesirable parts of our psyche and learn how to embody and integrate them in ourselves, and in our relationships, so they become a source of deepening in intimacy as apposed to sources of conflict.

Accommodation & Location


The Santosha Refuge, Mazunte, Mexico

Arrival & Schedule


Thursday 4/20

Friday 4/21

Saturday 4/22

Sunday 4/23

9am to 1pm - Morning Session

1pm to 3pm - Lunch

3pm to 6pm - Afternoon Session

6pm to 730pm - Dinner Break 

7:30/9pm - Evening Ritual


9am to 1pm - Morning Session

1pm to 3pm - Lunch

3pm to 6pm - Afternoon Session

6pm to 730pm - Dinner Break 

7:30/9pm - Evening Ritual


9am to 1pm - Morning Session

1pm to 3pm - Lunch

3pm to 6pm - Afternoon Session

6pm to 730pm - Dinner Break 

7:30/9pm - Evening Ritual


9am to 1pm - Morning Session

1pm to 3pm - Lunch

3pm to 6pm - Afternoon Session

6pm to 730pm - Dinner Break 

7:30/9pm - Evening Ritual




Ian Wilkes

Transformational Coach and Mentor

Ian is a men's work facilitator and coach, couples intimacy coach, breathwork/trauma release facilitator, kambô practitioner and yoga/meditation teacher.

In 2012 Ian left his life as a club promoter and hotel manager in New York city after a rock bottom experience with his 9 year drug and alcohol addiction to the point of not wanting to live anymore. 


In search for meaning and healing Ian spent 10 years and continuing in deep practice and study of ancient spiritual traditions and healing arts around the world. From living in ashrams in India, to buddhist monasteries in Myanmar, to being an apprentice to an Ayahuasca shaman in the Amazon to studying with masters of modern healing modalities  he not only tranformed his own life, but created his own modalities for healing and awakening which he now shares in his programs, workshops and ceremonies around the world. 

Ian combines his knowledge of trauma release, psychology, Yoga, meditation, Tantra, sacred intimacy, and group healing to help guide others on a complete path healing and awakening.  

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Valentina Cannavó

Tantra, Yoga and Meditation Teacher 

Valentina is is yoga/meditation and Tantra teacher with over 10 years of teaching and intensive practice experience.  

In her early 20's she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, a disease which is deemed incurable by western medicine standards.  Through the deep fire of her heart, her unwavering dedication to the spiritual path and an aspiration to heal herself she spent months in deep practice, including long periods of fasting, extensive dark retreats, and other intensive yogic disciplines.  Through her persistence and dedication, her symptoms of the disease began to lessen until they completely disappeared, a miracle by western medical thinking.

She now shares her experience and journey with other women who suffer from MS and teaches yoga, meditation, feminine embodiment work, and Tantra from that place of profound depth and dedication to the teachings.

Valentina is currently one of the senior pre-board members and teachers at the world renowned Hridaya Yoga centers in Lyon France and Mazunte Mexico. She coordinates and teaches many of their top programs and retreats and is one the most highly respected and senior teacher of Tantric Ritual in the community. 


This will be a very intimate workshop and our capacity is limited to 22 total practitioners, 11 masculine and 11 feminine (please talk to us, if you identify yourself as non-binary).

Attending as a couple or single is welcome, so long as space is still available. We HIGHLY recommend coming with a practice partner.  Know that as a single you will be paired with other singles which can be very beautiful and/or very challenging.

Prices are in $USD


For now closed for female singles, still open for male singles and couples/practice partners!


The price is non refundable but can be applied to future retreats with us either in Mazunte or anywhere else in the world should you need to cancel.

  • TI Single Price

    Male Gender
    • Price is Per Person
  • TIZ Regular Couple

    Regular price for committed partners or practice partners
    • Entry for 2 people
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